On yesterday’s theme: I recently stumbled across this quote on marriage (from Mike Mason’s The Mystery of Marriage, but quoted elsewhere. I’m not cool enough – or married enough – to have read Mike Mason’s book): marriage is a relationship far … Continue reading
Someone pointed me towards some resources on co-dependency a few weeks ago with the comment ‘I never knew what this was, but then I read this stuff and thought “this sounds just like me!”‘ [NB: co-dependency is misleadingly named – … Continue reading
I’m reading ‘Knowing God’, by J. I. Packer, at the moment and discovered this gem on the tube yesterday morning: ‘God is love’ is the complete truth about God so far as the Christian is concerned. To say ‘God is … Continue reading
Patience, hard thing! the hard thing but to pray, But bid for, Patience is! Patience who asks Wants war, wants wounds; weary his times, his tasks; To do without, take tosses, and obey. Rare patience roots in these, and, these … Continue reading
I’d come across most of the conditions treated by the addiction service at my current hospital: alcoholism, drug addiction – whether to illegal or prescription drugs, eating disorders (which can be seen as an addiction to bingeing or restricting intake). But although most of the patients have come in for one or more of these addictions, within the unit several others are discussed. Workaholism, co-dependency, compulsive helping and what is referred to in the trade as ‘SLA’ – sex and love addiction – are all recognised as features of an addictive personality. SLA is particularly topical at the moment (though I’d never heard of it before) with the release of Steve McQueen’s film about a sex addict, Shame, this week. The BBC news website even ran a first-person article written by a sex addict a couple of days ago.
But what does it mean to be an ‘love addict’ or addicted to ‘compulsive helping’? Normally we think of addiction in terms of chemicals. Continue reading
I’ve just got to Ruth in my current voyage through the Bible. I’ve been looking forward to it for quite a while, and when I got to it I couldn’t resist reading the whole thing at once rather than chapter … Continue reading
I’ve been doing some thinking recently about the desire to be safe. I’m not talking about looking both ways when you cross the road, or wearing a cycle helmet, so much as existential safety. I want – and want desperately – … Continue reading